When I got home I said to Kim, "Yoh! This women is feisty!" To which she replied, "Oh, and you're not?" Yes Helen is feisty, and why shouldn't she be? She has fought many a battle in her life and she is a survivor.
It kind of ended there...the bike was tough and the run just as tough and we went from skipping and singing to long periods of silence and some possible swearing. Triathlon is an individual sport and suddenly we were both racing for two. But when we approached the red carpet and Helen broke the silence by saying, "Desi, this is the best gift anyone has ever given me", I knew it was all worth while.
This is what I am learning from this experience; we live in an effed up world where we cannot tolerate each other's differences. We judge each other for different religious views, for different skin colours, for sexual orientation, for being a roadie vs a triathlete, for being male vs female, for having a disability or illness that we don't understand, and the list goes on.
Helen and I are very different in many ways, but what I think we have gotten right is that we have an authentic relationship. We are able to be honest with each other, we can disagree and still accept each other for the way we are. One is not better than the other, we are just different and we can respect that. We have a common goal and we are working well together to achieve that goal.
Bring on Ironman 2017, bring on that special needs bag with peanut butter sarmies and a head light, bring on those glow sticks!!!!!